12 Ways S**x Gets Better When You're a Grown-Ass Woman

12 Ways S**x Gets Better When You're a Grown-Ass Woman

College is a great time for sex insofar as you're constantly surrounded by hundreds of other people your age, who are likely all equally horny as you (which is to say: very horny). All you really have to do is maintain eye contact with someone in class to get things going. But that doesn't mean all this boning you're squeezing in between classes is high-quality. A lot of it is mediocre, at best, and forgettable. Don't worry though because truthfully: Things get better. Here are 12 ways sex only improves as you become a grown-ass woman.

1. You've learned enough about sex to know what's trash. This isn't to say that all sex post-college is suddenly great. But chances are you've tried 69ing (and other garbage positions) enough times by now to realize you should just never do it. With age, you refine your sexual repertoire.

2. Most beds you have sex in will be actual beds. Men in college see a mattress on the floor, look at it, and say, "Hmm, yes, this is what a bed looks like!" As you progress through your 20s, the mattresses are suddenly lifted from the floor, and — if you're truly blessed — supported by headboards. It's just such a morale booster to have sex more than 8 inches from the ground.

3. You've fucked around with enough birth control that you've finally found your perfect method. Say good-bye to those halcyon days of frantically driving to the pharmacy for Plan B because you're only 57 percent sure the condom stayed on, and also you forgot to get your pills refilled that week. As a grown woman, birth control maintenance becomes second nature because you've had so much time to find one that works for you, and you've had so much practice using it.

4. You know what you like. And, even better, you know how to tell a partner what you like. You might still be figuring things out, but you're altogether more confident in your own sexuality and aren't afraid to verbalize that. Sex may not involve much actual talking, but communication is key, and that only gets easier as you get older.

5. Foreplay is an actual thing. Even though you had all the time in the world in college to skip chemistry class and spend 18 hours doing foreplay instead, it's so frequently neglected by young, horny men. This isn't such a problem among grownups. Skipping foreplay is a cardinal sin, and that's just solidified in adulthood.

6. No more getting halfway through a hookup and realizing the guy also hooked up with four of your friends. Friend groups in college can be messy — if only because social circles are small, everyone is at the same parties every weekend, and everyone is hooking up at those parties. You know more people in your adult life. The odds of realizing the Dave who's unhooking your bra is the same Dirtbag Dave your friend was talking about over drinks last week are much slimmer, if nonexistent. Adult world is a vast cornucopia of new partners. A sex buffet!

7. Sex feels like less of an ordeal. Maybe because you've just had more of it, or maybe because there are 18 million other important things (like your job and rent) on your mind to keep you from k-holing in a sex anxiety spiral, sex becomes less of A Thing. Casual sex can truly be casual sex, and there's altogether less ~drama~. A truly great thing.